Going Silent to Deal With Grief
Posted by Terry White on October 30, 2006 | 9 Comments
The blogs will be silent for a short period as we deal with some personal grief in the White family.
Our daughter Jamie, 35, was found dead Saturday morning in the living room of her apartment in a south suburb of Minneapolis. As a single mother, she has been raising her two boys, ages 12 and 16.
I returned from the East Focus Retreat Wednesday night and spent time with her Thursday and Friday. She had jaw surgery on Wednesday (her fourth) and my wife, Sharon, had taken her to the hospital, stayed with her through surgery and recovery, and was watching after the boys.
We all had a spaghetti dinner Friday night at Jamie’s place, even though Jamie was in quite a bit of pain from her operation. She lay down on the couch after dinner while my wife, Sharon, who had fixed the dinner, cleaned up.
I left Jamie’s place about 7 p.m. and Sharon left about 8 p.m., after the boys had returned so that Jamie would not be home alone. When the boys arose Saturday they found her dead on the living room couch.
We are awaiting toxicology tests and the results of an autopsy—we cannot set funeral dates until they release her. We tentatively plan for a funeral late this week. There are a number of possible causes, including accidental overdose of pain medication, one of several types of blood clots, or even hereditary heart disease (we adopted her as an infant, but there is a family history on her biological father’s side of early death from heart disease).
So we thank you for your prayers, particularly for what will now happen to the two boys. Todd is 16 and Chad is 12, and they desperately need stability, good role modeling, and strong spiritual input at this time in their lives.
The blog content will return after a reasonable period to reassemble our lives.
Doug Lee led us in the Matt & Beth Redman song at the retreat—it keeps echoing in my mind.
You give and take away
You give and take away
My heart will choose to say
Lord, blessed be Your name.
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