When Your Son is Committed to Missions . . .
Posted by Terry White on December 30, 2006 | 2 Comments
This article about Grace Brethren International Missions appointees Kirk and Kay Carver (pictured)–and how Kirk’s parents are responding to their son’s mission commitment–appeared in today’s The Villages Daily Sun from The Villages, Florida. Article and photo from the Sun.
THE VILLAGES — This Christmas season has been a whirlwind of activity for Bill and Fran Carver. They’ve visited relatives and spent time their son, Kirk and daughter-in-law, Kay.
The Village of Springdale couple know they need to make memories with their only child and his wife — the younger Carvers are planning to leave the country to train to become missionaries in Cameroon later this year.
“We’re very proud, but apprehensive, about them being so far away,” Fran said. “This is their choice, and we are with them 100 percent.”
“We have asked if they can’t be missionaries in the United States,” Bill said, “but Kirk’s answer is that most people in the U.S. have the opportunity to know God. How can you go against teaching the word of God?”
Fran is concerned for Kirk’s health. He’s had a heart valve replaced, and must take daily medication.
“That bothers me,” Fran said. “Sometimes packages do not arrive there.”
Kirk, a chiropractor, and Kay, a massage therapist and former office manager for Kirk’s practice, have been involved with mission work for the past three years, first going on short-term missions to Czechoslovakia.
“We thought we were being called to Czechoslovakia,” Kirk said. “But we went on a short-term mission to Chad. It broke our hearts for the African people. They have no opportunity to hear the word of God.”
The couple returned to their Chesapeake Beach, Md., home and have been methodically preparing for a return to Africa. The first order of business was to sell the chiropractic practice and their ocean-view home. The couple is selling everything, and except for a retirement account, giving all to Grace Brethren International Missions. The couple will receive a living stipend from GBIM.
“We had all the stuff Americans aspire to have,” Kirk said, “and it was completely unfulfilling and unrewarding.”
“It’s been very liberating to get rid of stuff,” Kay said. “The only thing that has me freaked is finding a home for our kitty cat.” Jack the Cat is a 7-year-old neutered brown tabby with a white chest and paws. Kay describes him as “very friendly.”
The couple will receive cross-cultural training in North Carolina, and will attend a missionary language school in Albertville, France, in order to learn enough French to get by in Cameroon, a former French colony. The Carvers are also looking for partners who can offer spiritual and financial assistance. They plan to keep those partners up to date with regular e-mails.
“Some people need to pray,” Kirk said, “some need to give and some need to go.”
Becoming missionaries was the last thing on the minds of Kirk and Kay.
“When we were in college, there were those “born-again Jesus freaks,” Kay said. “I didn’t want anything to do with them. Now I’m one of them.”
“We were saved at a small church with a missionary focus in 1998,” Kirk said. “Right away, we had the experience of a church involved in a mission.”
“That was important, Kay said. “You have the idea that a missionary is some sort of super-spiritual person. Instead, a missionary is a regular person, doing God’s work in another country.”
After their conversion, Kirk began attending classes at Capital Bible Seminary, with an eye toward becoming a pastor.
“I’m glad we’re becoming missionaries,” Kay said with a smile. “I’m not cut out to be a pastor’s wife.”
While in Africa, Kay expects to be involved with a women’s ministry, emphasizing literacy, orphan care and “True Love Waits,” an abstinence program for young women.
Kirk says his duties will involve evaluating and training pastors to spread the word in a mentorship and discipleship program.
“The idea is to train Africans to lead their own church,” Kay said.
While some may feel that becoming full-time missionaries is a big change, it’s natural to Kay.
“People think we’re sacrificing, being noble,” Kay said. “That’s not true. This feels right. It’s easy following God’s will.”
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